On Feminism I

Hello fellow readers! 

Today I would like to talk about something which I spend quite a lot of time thinking about – feminism. 

I feel a little two-sided about this topic and if you would return here as a frequent reader I beleive that there might be, most probably will be, more mentions of it. 

I think feminism is important, even extremely important. Feminism in its original meaning – the equal rights of men and women. That women should have the vote, be able to express themselves, be able to get payed the same for the same employement, and an avoidance of making the female into an object (sexual or object anyhow). However, I think it many times might go a little too far. I think a lot of the important focus of feminism has been moved to less important issues, who might still be issues but, I think they deley the process. 

In Sweden at the moment it is very ‘in’ to be a feminist, to categorise yourself as a feminist. At least in the groups where I move around. The blogs I read, the people at my school, and aquaintances on Twitter/Facebook/Instagram. They are all very active. They speak loudly for the feministic force. I think there are many things that they miss out on. 

Firstly, before you even start propagating anything, isn’t it wise to consider what underlies that which you try to achieve? If you fight for equality, then consider what equality actually is. Equality might not be the very same as justice – the two might not even be compatible. Equality might not be getting the same thing in the same amount all the time. Have the people that I see/read everyday ever thought about these things – thought one step “longer” than just blindly accepting the premises? Sometimes I really doubt it. 

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Many of the girls, yes for most of them are girls, say that feminism has given them self-confidence. That through feminism they have realised that they too can do things. Whatever they want. Say play the electric guitar even if being a girl or say not having to be “the good girl” at all times. That you should be accepted whatever you look like, that you are not ugly but gorgeous. That the things you say are good things and that you should not care too much about what others think. 
I think that these issues are perfectly solvable without feminism. I think that what they are more than anything else is the result of bad confidence and insecurities. I managed to get over my own very well without feminism. Is it not more important to realise that you can actually think for yourself? I think it has a lot to do with how your parents have raised you and encouraged you. I do not think it right to blame society for every wrong there is. The individual also has a responsibility. Image

What many of the feminists also try to encounter is the fight for gender neutral-ness and especially a gender neutral pronoun. The Swedish pronouns “hon” (meaning she) and “han” (meaning he) have been combined into “hen” which is supposed to be gender neutral. Here, there are also assumptions being made. Firstly the assumption that men and women are actually precicely the same on a genetical/mental level. It seems very likely for it to be the case I have to say but still I think that the possibilty of it not being the case is still present. I think that this problem at least has to be taken in consideration. 
Secondly, I wonder whether a gender neutral pronoun will actual

ly work. It might just be my own doubt and all I have to do is be convinced of it. 
I have written an essay in philosophy about this gender neutral pronoun and I might upload and publish some sort of summary of my main points and arguments here on this blog some time in the future. 

What I also consider to be a problem with feminism is the loudness of it. The attidute of “yes of course we are right” and the slight air of “we hate men”. They put themselves in a tricky situation. They claim not to hate men but as soon as a man tries to argue against them they say it is impossible for that man to understand simply because he is a man. The focus is constantly just focused on women where I would say that with for example gender expectations and such the pressure on the man is equally tough. 

I have throughout this post refered to feminists as “them” and similar but that is not to say that I do not see myself as a feminist. It rather means that I do not see myself as the general view of what a feminist is. There are too many things I disagree with. For the same reason I call myself a “vegetarian who eats fish” rather than a pescitarian because people don’t know what it is. If I present myseld as a feminist people will think things about me that are not true. 

 

In short all I wanted to share was some of my thoughts about feminism as I encounter it today in Sweden. There will be more of this since I really enjoy writing about it and find it important and interesting. There are still more things that I want to bring up.
If you feel you want to question any of my arguements or if you agree please tell me in the comments. 

Sincerely, 

Rebecca